Grrr. I have just read an excellent post over on Is There A Plan B where she discusses a news article claiming that four in ten women are now ‘too posh to push’. That term really makes me angry!
Regular readers of my blog will know that the birth of my son was not a nice experience. I have had two emegency sections and I DO NOT consider myself too posh to push.
I actually consider myself to have missed out on one of the most important things a woman can do in life. I have never experienced a ‘natural’ birth and I have never experienced the simple feeling of my baby’s skin on mine straight after birth. My babies were both whisked away upon birth. They were both examined and cleaned before they were presented to me. My daughter was only handed to me once they had finished stitching me up. My son was alive for a whole hour before we were together.
After my son was born, the entire front half of my body was covered in angry bruises. I couldn’t walk. I was sent home from hospital with no pain relief. I struggled to bond with my son and I still suffer from insomnia, anxiety and feelings of panicky desperation.
And the media thinks that I took the easy option????
Having an emergency section was the LAST thing I wanted for my son’s birth. In the end, what I wanted was completely ignored. I signed the consent form for my operation after it had all happened, after they’d performed the necessary to keep my son and me alive.
The post that inspired this post is entitled ‘Why are more women “choosing” caesearean sections?’ and the quotations around the word ‘choosing’ says it all. Some of us aren’t choosing at all. I know that there are women who do choose the section with the tummy tuck but I think that even those women are few and far between now.
‘Too Posh to Push’ is a thoughtless, out-dated and cruel term to give to any woman. A planned section does not always have to be planned for a medical reason. A woman’s emotional state should be considered too and goodness knows I wish my consultant had seen it that way too.